Comments on: A new Homebirth Blog to check out! http://www.mama-is.com/a-new-homebirth-blog-to-check-out/ old comic archives... Mon, 20 Jun 2011 01:05:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: rayner garner http://www.mama-is.com/a-new-homebirth-blog-to-check-out/comment-page-1/#comment-2476 rayner garner Fri, 31 Jul 2009 11:30:11 +0000 http://www.mama-is.com/?p=686#comment-2476 We had a homebirth in Hawaii in 81, with a direct entry midwife. Very smart, and warm woman. But my wife didn't know her very well. When she arrived my wife went into fear, fight or flight syndrome and labour stopped. I asked the midwife to leave us for a bit, she did, and I told my wife something that got her very angry. She started to hit me in an absolute rage. I managed to get a pillow in between us, and for the next twenty minutes she beat the hell out of that pillow! Then she told me something and I dissolved into tears and was no longer an unconscious predator in her eyes. My daughter's head arrived, and I got a bit lost looking into her eyes which were wide open. She was totally at peace, and so was my wife. The midwife came in then and just checked that the cord was free of her neck. I looked at my wife. She appeared to be in total command and in some sort of bliss state. She assured me that there was no pain or distress, just a sensation of stretching muscles. She was definitely not a stoic, if it had hurt she would have screamed her head off. I eventually came to the conclusion that the hitting of the pillows was in some way mimicking fighting off a predator, and that is how she discharged the adrenaline which was in her physiological system. Since then due to a happy happenstance, (I invented a baby sling which became much in demand in the States,) we became inundated with mums who wanted to buy one. Pregnant mums wanted to talk with my wife about her labour, and many were intrigued with our story. In the first few months over 200 pregnant mums tried it, and it worked for them. Over the years since, countless mums have tried it out with great results. I am an anthropologist; although medically trained not a physician. Totally unable to get any body of expertise interested either in the States or in the UK. Maybe try Cuba next. Great pity as it is such a useful and inexpensive tool for reducing pain and distress in labour. If you are interested in trying it out go to raynergarner.com No fees of any kind, all the info is freely available. Some of my anthropological research is there too. Think your blogs are very funny and some very disturbing in their implications. Love what you are trying to do. Happy nurturing. Rayner We had a homebirth in Hawaii in 81, with a direct entry midwife. Very smart, and warm woman. But my wife didn’t know her very well. When she arrived my wife went into fear, fight or flight syndrome and labour stopped.

I asked the midwife to leave us for a bit, she did, and I told my wife something that got her very angry. She started to hit me in an absolute rage. I managed to get a pillow in between us, and for the next twenty minutes she beat the hell out of that pillow!

Then she told me something and I dissolved into tears and was no longer an unconscious predator in her eyes.

My daughter’s head arrived, and I got a bit lost looking into her eyes which were wide open. She was totally at peace, and so was my wife. The midwife came in then and just checked that the cord was free of her neck.

I looked at my wife. She appeared to be in total command and in some sort of bliss state. She assured me that there was no pain or distress, just a sensation of stretching muscles. She was definitely not a stoic, if it had hurt she would have screamed her head off.

I eventually came to the conclusion that the hitting of the pillows was in some way mimicking fighting off a predator, and that is how she discharged the adrenaline which was in her physiological system.

Since then due to a happy happenstance, (I invented a baby sling which became much in demand in the States,) we became inundated with mums who wanted to buy one.

Pregnant mums wanted to talk with my wife about her labour, and many were intrigued with our story. In the first few months over 200 pregnant mums tried it, and it worked for them. Over the years since, countless mums have tried it out with great results.

I am an anthropologist; although medically trained not a physician. Totally unable to get any body of expertise interested either in the States or in the UK. Maybe try Cuba next. Great pity as it is such a useful and inexpensive tool for reducing pain and distress in labour.

If you are interested in trying it out go to raynergarner.com No fees of any kind, all the info is freely available. Some of my anthropological research is there too.
Think your blogs are very funny and some very disturbing in their implications. Love what you are trying to do.
Happy nurturing. Rayner

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