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OK you have GOT to send me the links to wherever you got this from!
The trouble here is the false dichotomy. Formula IS AWFUL! But it is not the only alternative in an extreme case. I wish we could all go back to the drawing board about this issue.
It’s like the “homeschooling conspiracy” some opponents think that’s out there! And I want to see links, too.
http://babble.com/mothers-breastfeeding-problems-nursing-advice/index.aspx
Its like the clean air breathers conspiracy. We don’t smoke tobacco and we don’t like others to smoke it either. And we think we’re so superior for not smoking when clearly we are just crazy cheapskates who don’t want to spend money on cancer sticks.
it makes me sad to see all the women complaining that they tried and tried but just couldn’t nurse, but then casually mention misconceptions and falsehoods that were the real cause of their problems. Like the woman who said that her baby had lost 10% of his weight in the week after his birth. Which is NORMAL. But she took it to mean her baby was starving, and started on the supplementation downward spiral. Or the woman who freaked out 3 days after birth because she was “still” producing “only” colostrum. Which is NORMAL. But she also started on the downward spiral. Or all the women who complained that their babies were nursing “all the time” and not “getting any milk.” our society has forgotten that newborns are SUPPOSED to nurse all the time, it’s how they build their future supply.
I have to wonder how many of them expected their babies to nurse on a schedule, like a bottle baby, or tried to do too much immediately postpartum and were destined to fail from the start. Or had overly medically managed births which screwed up hormone levels and doomed them from the start.
I don’t blame any of them. I blame the unrealistic expectation that a newborn will go right onto a schedule that won’t cause a new mother any inconveniense, so she can jump right up and get right back to her regular life.
Why should she expect LLL to have suggested “lactation failure?” I concede that LLL ladies can get a little passionate and even militant at times, but it’s irritating that people expect to get help with quitting breastfeeding from a breastfeeding support group. Would you go to your weight loss support group for an awesome cookie recipe?
LLL supports women in breastfeeding for as long as it works for them. If it worked for this mother to nurse her kid for a few weeks, then that’s great that that kid got a solid start on mom’s milk. When your kid is suddenly losing weight after such a great start, that’s a medical issue. At what point did the child show signs of dehydration? (She doesn’t mention dehydration which makes me wonder what else may have been going on.. still, not my point.) If you need to use something, even formula, at that point, so be it. If you are convinced that it is your body that is at fault, well, you are the number one authority of your own body and others must accept that. If you aren’t sure and you want to keep trying to nurse your kid, even after turning to formula, then that’s where LLL comes in mighty handy. If you ask for breastfeeding support, that’s what you’ll get. Support in BREASTFEEDING. If you ask for alternative solutions, I GUARANTEE you can find those out there. I PROMISE that alternatives to breastfeeding and the concept of “not being able to make enough milk” is easily accessible and not some dark secret that NO ONE out there ever mentions. Fact is, even those who hang out with a bunch of crunchy, preschooler-nursing mamas have heard it from far more than 4% of the mothers who have babies on formula. Whatever. It’s not my business why you’re feeding your kid corn syrup solids. I must believe you are doing what you feel is best for your family. And if you ask me about safe formula feeding or similar topics, I do in fact have information on such topics. But if you ask for breastfeeding support, you’re going to get the kind of feedback that this author got. It’s not a conspiracy. It’s a matter of sources of information.. which a writer should understand.
Perfect reply Julie!
These resources are surely helpful for treating someone with secondary lactation failure, but for the rest of us, they’re not only useless but guilt-provoking. Why won’t anyone acknowledge that some women simply don’t produce enough milk?
im not sure why she is lumping herself with primary lactation failure when she states right in the beginning she was able to nurse successfully for 6 weeks – which is prime growth spurt time.
I wondered the same thing, she seems to think she has primary lactation failure, but if she nursed until 6 weeks it’s clearly secondary lactation failure and yes, she could probably do something about it. With the right support.
OMG her baby lost 1/2 a pound and was STARVING???!!! Oh please, look at the babies in Africa who are actually starving… 1/2 a pound is not a huge difference to a normal healthy 6 wk old baby. If I freaked out every time my son lost half a pound (which I did the first couple times) my doctor would have thought I was a paranoid nutjob. But we ended up breastfeeding for 2 years and he is the picture of child health, with several little losses sprinkled amongst the many gains. Seriously, I’d be willing to bet all my money that if she would have hung in there another week or so her and her baby would have been just fine. Its natural to worry if you are providing enough for your baby but I really think she was overreacting. Said she tried the whole “nursing vacation” thing and relaxed but I’m not convinced she really did relax. Why didn’t anyone tell her that 1/2 a pound is not something to freak out about???