And that’s okay, but if they still think I’m huge AFTER I give birth, we’re going to have to have a talk.
And if they laugh at my size, make disparaging comments, or just whistle and go “holy cow”, they’ll get a pass. now. But after the birth, there better not be one mention of girth or anything.
I’m thinking about getting a shirt printed up that says, “yes, I’m big. No, birth is not imminent.Yes, you’re a dork for bringing it up.” The cool thing is that with my track record – going very very past due- I figure I could wear this shirt well past my due date and have a lot of fun. Because one thing is sure, if you think I’m big now, wait until April!
hee hee hoooooooo.
xox,
Heather
ps. you guys are dying to see a photo, I’m sure. I’ll get hubby to take on this weekend!
Thanks for posting this! It’s enough to bring this blog reader/lurker up for a comment
I’m due April and feel like I’m huge right now too. It’s my 3rd baby and my second was over 10lbs, so after my second, everyone still thought I was preggo. In fact, at my sister’s wedding, spanx and girdled up tighter than your favorite bratwurst, I still got told “Congratulations!” (and they weren’t referring to my sister). And I’m not what most would call a “big” person… I just can’t go around having 10lb babies and return to dressing like my daughter’s barbie.
But I wish you much success, and wanted to let you know that I’m looking for that same t-shirt. I’ll let you know if I find one
There has to be something on Cafepress… or just make it on the computer and iron it on! I was the same way with my second- everyone kept asking, “When are you due?” and then, “Wow- you’re sure carrying big!” I think it’s because I’m NOT a big person- it makes the baby bump look all the more large. You can always say, “Yes, I am huge. But you’re rude, and I’ll have the baby soon!” Keep your chin up!
I was so big with #2 (born in August) and I always got “you must be due any day” and “are you carrying twins?” He WAS 10 lbs 4 oz, so almost as big as decent sized twins…but I can’t blame all the excess weight on him, it isn’t like he was 20 pounds bigger than my first baby
Ah, well…he’s beautiful, healthy, and mine…so what does it matter?
okay, i’m two years pp & my little sister (bless the children for their honesty) offhandedly told me “you look like you’re pregnant again!” i wasn’t offended & i was honest with her & said “nah, it’s just fat” & she shrugged it off. if nothing else, i’m serving as her first impression of both pregnancy & the normal postpartum body. (she’s 10)
Thanks so much for making this one. I’m only 9wks and I’m in maternity clothes already and I dunno, I’ve been feeling pretty badly about it. This is my third, though, and people keep telling me this is normal. I’m thinking this time I’m going to be huge. Everyone always thinks I look so anyway because a) I’m fat (have been for years, lol) and b) I’m short so there is only one place for baby to go…out. So, I look like a bloated oompah loompah to begin with, haha!
Anyway, yeah, pictures! I love big baby bellies!
People said things like that to me during both my pregnancies! My MIL, mom, and grandma all insisted that I must have eithr been farther along than thought, or carrying twins. Gee thanks. And of course plenty of “Wow, you’re getting big” sort of comments from everyone else. (As if I needed to be told?!) I like to tell myself that it was just because I’m a small-framed person, so the extra weight just really looks odd on me, lol.
I’ve made a point of telling any pregnant friends/family members how fabulous they look, and how they look to be “all baby”, and that sort of thing, heehee. I mean really… even if a woman IS indeed huge, WHY-oh-why do some people think that she needs to hear that for some reason?!
Heather, I was bigger each time, the belly seemed to pop out more quickly — with my first, you could hardly see I was pregnant at 5 months, even 9 months (it was December) some people couldn’t tell, and I wanted to be able to sit down on the bus (the country we lived in treated pregnant women well, at least they would offer you a seat, if they knew…) By baby #3 I was huge very early, so I think your body just knows what to do and does it easier, sooner — but I also almost blew a gasket when my cousin’s husband remarked on it, and wish I had some snappy comeback — I like “you’re rude” — direct, simple.
LOL I know how you feel! I was in hospital on Wednesday as my Hubby was having surgery, and there was a guy sitting by a counter where I wealked up to to talk to one of the nurses, and he said “wow are you waiting for a room??” I laughed and said No! I still have around 9 weeks or so to go, then he said “is there more than one in there?” I laughed again and said No!
Then my DD teacher asked me when I was due a was very surprised that I had 9 weeks to go she just said ….WOW! Once again I just laughed it off!
But with every pregnancy Even my first I just carry all out in front and I always look huge!… Maybe people should just say Wow you look radiant!… Ive had that before but I know they just meant Huge!
Hey btw when is your Guess date? Im thinking a little after me (March 12th) I Hope your having a great pregnancy!
I am short and didn’t carry everything in front. So I was one of those folks that people had to ask someone else, “Is she pregnant?” and THEN tell me congrats because I COULD have just been getting very fat. That was also because I didn’t buy many maternity clothes and just wore big long skirts and roomy dresses. Boy was I surprised at how pregnant I still looked for the first couple days after birth.
I actually had a shirt made up by Vistaprint last time I was pregnant that said “No, really… pregnant women LOVE it when you tell them how big they look”
Funny how I didn’t get any more comments like that in my choir after I wore that shirt one day.
LOL
I bet you look beautiful as always!
Heather in Maine
My personal Pick is the Qintuplets line!!!!! Although the t-shirt ideas are to die for as well! So many GREAT ideas, my personal is that I’m breeding a football team, & this go round is the starting offensive line, lol! You would have to see my hubby to get that joke! (Big guy, my 10 lb newborns look tine when he holds them) A friend once said I just hold them in a FULL year so they come out 3 months old & laughing & sleeping through the night. dunno about that one but it was better then commenting on how “big” I wasn’t! They are 10 lbs or baby plus all the fixings, of COURSE I’m gonna look big! sheesh!
For you MaMa, hey maybe you’ll have a bouncing boy this time around! MY boys were all bigger! oh well, as long as it doesn’t make my bum look big, it’s all right with my honey!
for your amusement, one store I found early on in my pregnancy: http://www.cafepress.com/evilgeniusstore/1993389
Heather, I love you! You’ve kept me sane through 7 years (and counting!) of non-stop pregnancy and breastfeeding (four kids,nursed through pg, tandem, etc…). But I just get so sad when I see you–the champion of REAL womanhood–giving in to these fat-phobic feelings.
There’s nothing wrong with being BIG, whether you are pregnant or not! It’s not immoral, or ugly, or ignorant to be fat. Girth is nothing to feel embarrassed or ashamed about, and those rude people who comment in such judgemental ways? It’s their ignorance, their shame.
Maybe you are “huge” for not-quite-third-tri…I dunno, I haven’t seen you. But if you are huge, is that not one more reason to rejoice and be proud? Wow, what an amazing thing your body is doing. You might enjoy reading a bit after these wise women: http://kateharding.net/
Blessings!
I agree with Rachele- You’re SO right! The best thing you can say to a pregnant lady, (and, honestly, what I always say!) is, “Wow! You look so great! I hope you’re having an easy pregnancy!” I teach special ed, and my students and I had a great talk after one of them commented on how big the teacher down the hall looked when she was expecting. We agreed that the best thing they could say to ANY pregnant lady was, “Congratulations on the baby!” Don’t comment on her figure, and you’re always safe!
Okay, forgive me for the unsolicited opinions, but here goes! I had the over-hugeness experience non-stop in pregnancies 2, 3, and 4. It was embarrassing and humiliating many times being picked on! Those babies were 10lb, 9lb, and 10lb4oz. Then there was pregnancy #5… I was much slimmer and my baby still weighed a nice big 9lb2oz. How did I do it? I ate way way way more fat! Butter, cream, chicken skins, bacon, eggs, and on and on. Not only did I stay so slim that people thought I was *less* pregnant than I was, but I also felt WAY better than any other pregnancy. Oh, and I also ate zero sugar and zero refined flour and zero white rice. Highly recommended. And now, with my baby only 7 weeks old, I’m back in my old jeans, too!
I had this “problem” and your cartoon’s experience MANY times during my most recent pregnancy. My baby was 10 pounds 4 ounces, so it was well deserved!
Good luck with your pregnancy!!
i overheard a woman who runs a local baby shop tell a mama that her BABY was getting so big, which i thought was a far more compassionate & accurate remark. yes, it is the baby growing, not mama, and yes, i know that baby’s getting heavy! i always tell mamas that they look beautiful, and i compliment them on their choice of clothing, because i know it’s sometimes hard to feel beautiful or attractive when your belly is outgrowing your roomiest dresses & skirts.
Big bellies are beautiful. I definitely had one with my daughter, and the courier at work found it necessary to point it out like once a week. He would come in and say “So, are you about ready to go to the hospital?” And that was when I was still several months away from delivery. The dumb part was, we work in a hospital, so I was already there!
I am now pregnant again, and I can’t wait until someone asks me if I’m ready to go to the hospital. I’ll just blink and say, “No, I’m not going to the hospital. I’m having this baby in my BEDROOM at home!”
Have you thought about doing a belly cast? yea yea I know.. like you WANT to me reminded of how “big” you were. But seriously. I made one the night before my twins were born and had their picture taken in it when they were a week old. Beautiful picture.
But I can sympathize with you. Being pregnant with twins, I got my fair share of belly comments. I looked full term at 5 months. I LOVED telling people I was only carrying one and that big babies just run in my family. Oh the look on their faces. Priceless.
Personally, I love the shirts at jestations.com. Never had the chance to get one (no one here would get the joke as no one here speaks English), but I got a good chuckle out of them nonetheless.
I got plenty of “you sure are big” comments with my first by the time I was 6 months along. The rudest was from an attorney who does work for my company; he suggested that I keep my weight down or I might have a hard time getting it off afterwards! Rudeness abounds, but cain’t nobody take that warm little bundle of joy in your belly away. Yeah, big-bellied mamas! (And a shout-out to big old babies, as well)
LOL, well my butt is getting bigger this pregnancy, along with my belly, so I joke that I’m carrying twins: one in the front and one in the back!
I got plenty of “you’re getting huge” comments followed with “you must be having twins hahhahah, isn’t that funny.” And I loved the look of shock when I said, yeah it is funny because I am having twins.
So my #3 was way bigger than even a #3 should be and it was twins, so you never know! Are you doing UP as well?